Sam Vaknin

The narcissist regards all criticism as a threat to his or her inflated, grandiose false self. These are methods of communication to get through to a narcissist.

Narcissistic behavior can be modified. Full-fledged narcissism (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) is a different matter.

Classic emotional bullying and narcissistic behaviour is when idealisation is followed by devaluation. The devaluing attitude develops as a result of disagreements or simply because time has eroded the employee's capacity to serve as a fresh "source of supply."

Most important: Insist on Your Boundaries – Resist Marital Abuse.