How can you turn dating without drama into a reality?

So you want to know the secrets behind dating without drama? Let’s get down to the nuts and bolts of how to date to find a relationship that is mutually fulfilling, exciting, and long lasting, regardless of whether you are looking for marriage or not.

You might be thinking that after you go through your list of not-so-satisfying traits that there aren’t too many people out there to choose from. Even if you think that it’s okay, because why would you want to spend your precious time with drama filled relations when you can find excitement on your own.

The Steps in Your Process:

• Always gratify yourself first! Find and pursue hobbies or activities that you have been putting off/shelving your whole life, even if they seem weird to you like making models out of clay with plastic forks. Seriously! If you have ever thought about it or had an interest in it, pursue it. Never pursue this activity with an underlying motive of meeting a member of the opposite sex. Seek it for the pure self gratification it will give you.
   
• Make a Dream Building List! Imagine, if just for a moment, that you will be living your life without a significant other for the time being, (this doesn’t include friends and family just “love” relationships). What would your dreams look like if they did not include an intimate relationship? Get a journal or some funky notebook or start a blog and begin to see what you want your life to look life. Get pictures. Find maps of where you would like to go. Imagine you, living, breathing, and having fun all by yourself. This is a pictorial of your life goals and aspirations, solo. In essence cultivate becoming someone you would want to date. Many people keep a book like this and use it to record their memories and experiences. They include movie tickets, travel brochures, lists of accomplishments and a lot more. Get creative, you’ll be so glad you did!
   
• When you do decide to date, never limit yourself to one person! Get to know more than one member of the opposite sex at a time. I am not saying you should be physically intimate with everyone you meet. I am saying that by virtue of getting to know a variety of people you will begin to determine who you are more drawn to and who is more drama free. By dating a variety of people you are kept busy and occupied so that all or your attention is not focused on anyone in particular. I know this goes against everything you have learned, but go back to your dating history and see if having done this would have opened up options and helped you to make better choices.
   
• The Imagining Part! Where ever you go and whomever you meet treat them with attention and respect, then imagine that they are doing the same for you. When you are with others see if you can sit and listen and feel how you feel around them. Imagine that there is a world opening up to you that contains countless available people who are open and loving and who want the same kind of relationship you do. When you keep your heart open you run into many others who do as well.

I wish you much luck, success and happy endings on your journey to dating without drama. When you follow this advice and begin to live your life the way you see it and begin to feel what makes you happy you will attract all the right people at all the right times.