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How to make a guy fall in love with you if he doesn't feel the same way?

Written By

Laura Giles

Licensed Clinical Social Worker

Briefly Speaking

If the sign says stop and you proceed anyway, expect to hit a dead end. Find out the truth behind learning how to make a guy fall in love with you if he doesn't seem to feel the same way about you.
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Ah! Unrequited love. We've all been there, haven't we? If we could all just run down to the drug store and pick up Love Potion #9, all would be right with the world, right? Wrong. It's better for both parties if you trust nature and your partner to know when it is right.

So, let's look at why this is so.

Let's say that your beloved has a certain body style or look that you don't have and you change your outward appearance to make yourself more physically desirable. You lose weight, gain weight, buff up, change your hair color, get a weave, change your clothing style or get plastic surgery. What does that do for your self-esteem?

It sends the message that you are not good enough as you are, doesn't it? Every time you have to do something to maintain a look that is not truly your own, you reinforce that horrible message. I think the cost of hooking that fish is too high. You shouldn't have to sacrifice your self-esteem to learn how to make a guy fall in love with you if he doesn't feel the same way.

Let's say that your partner is keeping his distance because he has a secret that you don't know about. You go on the prowl and seduce him, but the secret later comes out. What now? You're in it with both feet and are head over heels.

Maybe he's married. Maybe he's HIV positive. Maybe he has questions about his sexuality. Maybe he's transferring jobs to another country in three months. Maybe he's still in love with his ex. Maybe he is from a culture that doesn't allow marriage outside of that culture. You've just bought yourself some trouble, haven't you?

Your beloved has more information than has been shared with you. He has no obligation to share it, but if you try to overcome his objections, you may find out that his reasons for not pursuing a relationship with you were wise after all.

Let's say that your beloved has no sexual attraction to you, but here you come. You are a great cook. You are funny, thoughtful, fit, and attractive. His dog loves you. You like the same activities. His friends are telling him that you are a catch, so he gives in.

Now you're sexually frustrated because your boyfriend doesn't enjoy making love with you. Sexual compatibility is very important in keeping a relationship vibrant and alive. It's not something that can be faked or manufactured- especially in the beginning when attraction is generally highest. Ignoring this will result in prolonged frustration for both parties. 

Let's say that your beloved actually likes you quite a lot. The two of you laugh often, get along great and click like magic. You can't understand why he doesn't want to make it more than that when you obviously have great chemistry. What you might not know is that he's holding back because he respects you. He knows his track record  and doesn't want to get entangled with anything serious. He is staying away because he doesn't want to lose your friendship. He's afraid you will become another one of his victims, but you push forward.

Three months later, his fears come true. You catch him flirting with another girl and your relationship and friendship ends. A man knows when he's ready for a fling and when he is ready for something serious. Respect his timeline. 

What I am trying to say is, trust that your beloved's lack of interest in you is a sign that this is not a good match. His objections are not challenges to be overcome. No means no. He knows himself better than you do. He knows what he wants. He knows what he values. He knows his heart. If you push your way into his life and try to learn how to make a guy fall in love if he doesn't feel the same way, you are essentially saying, "My needs are more important than yours, and I don't trust you to know what you want."

Is that a good way to start a relationship? Of course not! 

Having your heart ache for someone who doesn't seem to know you are alive hurts, but fighting against it intensifies the pain. Accept it. If you run a stop sign, you are likely to hit a dead end. You deserve someone who can love you fully and completely without any coaxing or reservations. If you can start a relationship on that ground, you have a much greater chance for making a success of it. Hold out for that guy. It will be worth it in the end. 

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    Sally 30 hours ago
    I am very happy today for what Dr Stanley a great spell caster has done in my life. i had misunderstanding with my husband in the past and so it led to us breaking up for 3months but one day i saw a comment posted on a forum on the internet that Dr Stanley helped her with a spell that brought her Husband back so i decided to contact Dr Stanley to help me and he assured me that my Husband will come back to me with 48hours and today i am very glade to write on this wall that my husband has come back to me as he has said. You can also reach him if you want his help via drstanleyspelltemple@hotmail.com or call +2348038139297.........Sally
    Emma Russell 2 weeks ago
    I saw a testimony of Nadezhda Vyacheslav on how she got that guy to love her as she did him.Though i don't know her, i believed her cos she said Mutton Osun a spell caster help her seen it happen.I didn't believe her cos she used a spell i believed her cos she made mention of a mutual spell caster i know of that is mutton Osun. I have also see a lot of testimony about his work on the the internet on blog pages and so on.I literally took a lip of faith to contact him and it turn out that it paid off.In my own case i didn't ask that him to make anyone fall in love with me or ask that my cheating wife comes back.This time i was at fault i messed up.Will really like to say it was an honest mistake or a few hours or days of weakness but then i will be insulting my wife and the love i feel for her.I was in full control of what i was doing i had the choice not to cheat but i still did. She didn't find out by herself i told hoping if i told her how sorry i am and how much i still love and want to be with her despite my betray she will forgive completely.It was the biggest mistake of my life maybe i should not have told her, i guess she would have still found out if she didn't catch me then i bet the other lady would have told her what was going on to destroy what me and my wife had.It was obvious my betray really hurt her i could she it in her eye and i was really sorry.That is why i wasn't so surprise when she asked that we go our separate ways.There and then i realized that i was following the part that ruined my life and my family.I literally lead four month of my life in misery.I have never felt like i needed her like i had felt begging was not an option nothing was an option cos she was gone.It was right about that time Mutton Osun came into the picture or when i asked that he help me get my wife to love as she did before.I was able to provide the items he asked that i get for the spell and send then down to him.Like Nadezhda Vyacheslav said "the spell does become effective at once that " she was right also cos just after i did what Mutton Osun asked me to do with what he sent me, it took 7 days before anything happened i even thought for a minute that i had met a fake spell caster but in the end i am happy with my wife again.We going to be renewing our vows on the 20th of September. I was on the edge of become a walking dead a woman with nothing to live for thank my star Mutton Osun helped.I will also leave his contact for those who thing he can help them { godsofosunx@rocketmail.com }
    Nadezhda Vyacheslav 3 weeks ago
    I have been reading about spell casting and its powers for a while but i never thought or it never occurred to me or i rather say that it happened that i never got myself in any situation that will make need the help of a spell caster.I read a lot of testimony on the internet on web pages, blog, and some on the Facebook page of some web site i linked with my Facebook with.I was more concerned about a certain spell caster MUTTON OSUN. That his name kept appearing on almost every comment form different individual claiming he has helped them a great deal in spell casting of all kind but mostly relationship problem that is from divorced man and women to lost love and cheating wife and husband was like don't even know the word to use.All of them had just one thing in common that he help then resolved their problem that even therapist could not solve i guess the problem was passed the place where talking was not doing any good at all.But some how i believed them and their story cos the testimony were just too real and were from different people.I just enjoyed reading how he help those people and asking myself how possible it was that this spell caster could do all this with no effect of what so ever.Year they said his spell had no negative effect on the person who asked the spell to be casted and the person the spell is casted upon.I just wanted to know how it worked so i tried it and now i am among those writing this to tell those like me reading that this MUTTON guy is real.I am a single 32 years old mom of two two girls.I have always had a thing for this guy or i would say i liked this guy but he was kind of a mess cos of the lost of his wife.Like he had nothing to leave for any more.He never came out of this house and even went he did he doesn't talk to anybody even i tried ti make a conversation he just smile so he doesn't look cruel and then walk away.At night you can hear him breaking things and sobbing.I wouldn't say i knew what he was feeling cos really i didn't know but i knew i could make him happy again but no matter how i tried to get close he shuts me out.I really liked him and hated to see him miserable i mean he still have a chance to be happy with me.Contacting MUTTON OSUN was really easy for me cos all those other article had an email address i could use to contact him.So i send him an email to him but i didn't get a responses immediately i mean it took three day before i saw his mail in response to my mail where he told me that he could help me make the guy to love.Am sorry i can mention my name or his cos i really don't know who is writing this thing i am writing.Any way i was not allowed to tell any one till i have seen the result and important he told me i needed some materials for the spell casting.Most people tend to thinking his asking you to pay for the spell but not you have the choice to buy these materials and send them to him or you can ask that he get them for you if you can get the materials or the cost of buy and ship them to him is to much.In my case i gave him money to get the materials cos it was way less expansive.I guess he made some kind of harmless powdery substance with those materials and sent them over to me.He asked that i follow this instructions on how to make the spell active which i did.I must warn you it take at least two day to be effective cos it was after two days the man that never talks to me knocked at my door asking if i would like to watch movies with him at his place form there we kicked off.We have been together for 4 months now and still counting he is a really nice man i can am the luckiest woman in the world.I mean this only means that what MUTTON did is working and it changed both our life for good.I will also leave his mail here you contact purpose >> godsofosunx@rocketmail.com
    Jennifer 7 weeks ago
    My name is Jennifer and i want to testify of the good work done by a faithful DR PALOMA, a spell caster. in my life i never thought there is such thing as spiritual intercession. my problem started 5 months back when the father of my kids started putting up some strange behavior, i never knew he was having an affair outside our matrimonial home. it dawn on me on that faithful day 4th of April 21st 4:23pm when he came to the house to pick his things that was when i knew that situation has gotten out of hand and he then told me he was quitting the marriage which i have built for over 6 years, i was confused and dumbfounded i called on family and friends but to no avail. two months after i started having problem with my kids welfare rent-age and all of it, i really went through ***. until a day i was browsing on the internet and i happen to meet DR PALOMA Email palomaspelltemple@yahoo.com i never believed on this but i needed my man back so i gave the spell caster my problem at first i never trusted him so i was just doing it but you know a problem shared is half solved after a 2das my husband called me telling me that he his coming back home and that was all. now we are living happily and i still do contact him on this email: palomaspelltemple@yahoo.com
    ALEXANDER 10 weeks ago
    HOW MY RELATIONSHIP WAS SAVED BY DR TESTMA An amazing testimony on a spell caster who brought my wife back to me.. My name is ALEXANDER,
    i live in Washington, and I'm happily married to a lovely and caring wife, Lina Susan with three kids.A very big problem occurred in my family six months ago,between me and my wife.so terrible that she took the case to court for a divorce. she said that she never wanted to stay with me again,and that she didn't love me anymore.So she packed out of my house and made me and my children passed through several pain. I tried all my possible means to get her back,but i could't after much begging, but all to no avail.and she confirmed it that she has made her decision,and she never wanted to see me again. So on one evening, as i was coming back from work, i met an old friend of mine who asked of my wife.So i explained every thing to him,so he told me that the only way i can get my wife back, is to visit a spell caster,because it has really worked for him too.So i never believed in spell,but i had no other choice,than to follow his advice. Then he gave me the email address of the spell caster whom he visited.{testmanospiritualspelltemple@gmail.com}. So the next morning,i sent a mail to the address he gave to me,and the spell caster assured me that i will get my wife back the next day.What an amazing statement!! I never believed,so he spoke with me,and told me everything that i need to do. Then the next morning, So surprisingly, my wife who didn't call me for the past six {6}months, gave me a call to inform me that she was coming back.So Amazing!! So that was how she came back that same day,with lots of love and joy,and she apologized for her mistake,and for the pain she caused me and my children. Then from that day,our relationship was now stronger than how it were before,by the help of a spell caster. So, i will advice you out there to kindly visit the same website {testmanospiritualspelltemple@gmail.com},if you are in any condition like this,or you have any problem related to "bringing your ex back. all thanks to the DR TESMA for bringing back my wife, and the great joy to my family once again. {testmanospiritualspelltemple@gmail.com}
    ALEXANDER 10 weeks ago
    My name is Rita and I base in Florida“My life is back!!! After 2 years of Broken marriage, my husband left me with two kids . I felt like my life was about to end i almost committed suicide, i was emotionally down for a very long time. Thanks to a spell caster called Dr Ogwua which i met online. On one faithful day, as I was browsing through the internet, I was searching for a good spell caster that can solve my problems. I came across allot of testimonies about this particular spell caster. Some people testified that he brought their Ex lover back, some testified that he restores womb,cure cancer,and other sickness, some testified that he can cast a spell to stop divorce and so on. i also come across one particular testimony,it was about a woman called Sonia,she testified about how he brought back her Ex lover in less than 7 days and reverse the effect of their little boys cancer, and at the end of her testimony she dropped Dr Ogwua e-mail address. After reading all these,I decided to give it a try. I contacted him via email and explained my problem to him. In just 3 days, my husband came back to me. We solved our issues, and we are even happier than before. Dr Ogwua is really a gifted man and i will not stop publishing him because he is a wonderful man... If you have a problem and you are looking for a real and genuine spell caster to solve all your problems for you. Try Dr Ogwua anytime, he might be the answer to your problems. Here's his contact: Ogwuaspiritualspellhome@hotmail.com
    dora lawson 10 weeks ago
    Hello i am MISS DORA LAWSON,I am out here to spread this good news to the entire world on how i got my husband back.I was going crazy, mad and confuse. when my husband left me for another woman last month,But when i meet a friend that introduce me to DR ADAGBA the great messenger to the oracle that he serve,I narrated my problem to DR ADAGBA about how my ex love left me and also how i needed to get a job in a very big company.He only said to me that i have come to the right place were i will be getting my heart desire without any side effect.He told me what i need to do,After it was been done,In the next 2 days,My love called me on the phone and was saying sorry for living me before now and also in the next one week after my lovely husband called me to be pleading for forgiveness,I was called for interview in my desired company were i needed to work as the managing director..I am so happy and overwhelmed that i have to tell this to the entire world to contact DR ADAGBA at the following email address and get all your problem solve..No problem is too big for him to solve..Contact him direct on: adagbaspiritualtemple@yahoo.com and get your problems solve like me, call him via;+2348115200304
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    Jane 11 weeks ago
    I am Jane from UNITED STATE OF AMERICA, I promise to share this testimony all over the world once my boyfriend return back to me, and today with all due respect i want to thank Dr FEMI for bringing joy and happiness to my relationship and my family. I want to inform you all that there is a spell caster that is real and genuine. I never believed in any of these things until i loosed my boyfriend, I required help until i found drfemilovetemple@yahoo. com. Come to this grate spell caster, And he will cast a love spell for me, and he assured me that I will get my boyfriend back in two days after the spell has been cast. two days later, my phone rang, and so shockingly, it was my boyfriend who has not called me for past 3 years now, and made an apology for the heart break, and told me that he is ready to be my back bone till the rest of his life with me. DR FEMI released him up to know how much i loved and wanted him. And opened his eyes to picture how much we have share together. As I’m writing this testimony right now I’m the most happiest lady on earth and me and my fiance is living a happy life and our love is now stronger than how it were even before our break up. So that’s why I promised to share my testimony all over the universe.All thanks goes to DR FEMI for the excessive work that he has done for me. Below is the email address in situation you are undergoing a heart break, and I assure you that as he has done mine for me, he will definitely help you too. drfemilovetemple@yahoo. com
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    Jane 11 weeks ago
    I am Jane from UNITED STATE OF AMERICA, I promise to share this testimony all over the world once my boyfriend return back to me, and today with all due respect i want to thank Dr FEMI for bringing joy and happiness to my relationship and my family. I want to inform you all that there is a spell caster that is real and genuine. I never believed in any of these things until i loosed my boyfriend, I required help until i found drfemilovetemple@yahoo. com. Come to this grate spell caster, And he will cast a love spell for me, and he assured me that I will get my boyfriend back in two days after the spell has been cast. two days later, my phone rang, and so shockingly, it was my boyfriend who has not called me for past 3 years now, and made an apology for the heart break, and told me that he is ready to be my back bone till the rest of his life with me. DR FEMI released him up to know how much i loved and wanted him. And opened his eyes to picture how much we have share together. As I’m writing this testimony right now I’m the most happiest lady on earth and me and my fiance is living a happy life and our love is now stronger than how it were even before our break up. So that’s why I promised to share my testimony all over the universe.All thanks goes to DR FEMI for the excessive work that he has done for me. Below is the email address in situation you are undergoing a heart break, and I assure you that as he has done mine for me, he will definitely help you too. drfemilovetemple@yahoo. com
    John 11 weeks ago
    My Name is John Sliva, From Marryland . I wish to share my testimonies with the general public about what this man called dr Aziegbe has just done for me , this man has just brought back my lost Ex Wife to me with his great spell, I was married to this man called Steven we were together for a long time and we loved our self’s but when I was unable to give him a child for 2 years he left me and told me he can’t continue anymore then I was now looking for ways to get him back until a friend of mine told me about this man and gave his contact email, then you won't believe this when I contacted this man on my problems he prepared this spell cast and bring my lost husband back, and after a month I miss my month and go for a test and the result stated am pregnant am happy today am a mother of a baby girl, thank you once again the great dr Aziegbe for what you have done for me, if you are out there passing through any of this problems listed below:

    1) If you want your ex back.
    (2) if you always have bad dreams.
    (3) You want to be promoted in your office.
    (4) You want women/men to run after you.
    (5) If you want a child.
    (6) You want to be rich.
    (7) You want to tie your husband/wife to be yours forever.
    (8) If you need financial assistance.money
    - you can contact him via: email drossuva@gmail.com he is the best and once again god bless you Dr Aziegbe